Commentary: Very often we see people around us who cant seem to relax , who are so involved in the care of others that they often forget to put themselves first. I have seen this more often in women who are groomed from childhood to “take care of others”. In the process they suppress their own needs. As a grown up they naturally take the role of “caretakers” which can lead to diminished self care and consequently physical and mental disorders. Reading this article was an aha moment for me. Boys on the other hand are told not to exhibit emotions related to sadness or insecurity as it’s not a “manly” thing to do. Are we then setting up the children for CEN? Worth thinking about.
Childhood neglect does not necessarily mean abuse. In fact i believe it is more a parenting style which dismisses the expression and exploration of emotion in a child. In many cultures children are told that they should be seen and not heard – this can lead to suppression of laughter, anger, excitement and so on.
If you already know something about Childhood Emotional Neglect or CEN and how it affects adults you may expect this article to be about guilt or shame. And indeed, despite having their feelings virtually walled off and inaccessible, most CEN people are…
Source: A Surprising Emotion People With Childhood Emotional Neglect Often Feel
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MA in Applied Psychology, PhD (Organization Behavior), SHRM certificate in HR ( USA), Certified trainer for MBTI, IDI, Social Styles ( USA), Certifications in Life skills Facilitation, Yoga (S Vyasa University), Cognitive Behavior Therapy and Dialectical Behavior therapy
I have worked in the HR and Organization Development space for nearly 22 years during which time I have worked at improving organizational and people through Leadership coaching, Cross cultural training, Diversity management, and training in Assertiveness, mentoring, goal setting
In India, I had tenures with organizations like Indian Market Research Bureau, Kirloskar AAF, The P and P group and PwC SDC with primary focus being on Organization development and resultant training/coaching. The later part of my career has been in the United States with organization such as Minnesota School of business and Metropolitan council.
From 2013-2016 I worked as a trainer with Brookfield International for Cross Cultural competence durin which time I coached senior executives from global companies such as Bosch, Northern trust and Merck on Indian culture. I have conducted training programs for managers on American culture (General motors, Bosch). And published a book on the subject titled “American Culture – Demystified for new Indian Immigrants.”
In the last couple of years I have been associated with Enfold Charitable trust in Bangalore India helping them with effectiveness research and streamlining the Volunteer involvement program. I conduct yoga classes on stress management.
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